Partnerships, Spouses, Relationships, and Quarantine

It’s been almost two weeks now since the coronavirus has necessitated that we stay home with the goal of social distancing. There are a lot of people that have been able to work from home. That has taken some adjustments in some cases. I am lucky that my day job is mostly virtual, and I have had the luxury of working from home since 2014.

I am so used to working from home that I recently redecorated to make my living space more inclusive of my workspace. So, I have a legit home office now, and that has been great since I spend so much time in that space. I am lucky to live, work, and function in a very zen and calm atmosphere.

I consider myself lucky that I have minimal inhabitants to my space, and those that share my areas for any amount of time are peace, love, and calm, like me. I have always leaned toward folks that were calm, laid-back, and not “high strung.” I don’t get along well with folks that are “super extra.” Could you just imagine life if you were stuck with someone during a quarantine if there were some incompatibility issues?

A lot of people are experiencing this from what I gather in my groups. It is most unfortunate. These are mostly women who are now, after just two weeks evaluating their lives, partnerships, marriages, and relationships with their significant others or spouses. Most feel as if they are not heard, understood, appreciated, and so many more things.

I use to wonder what would have happened had I married early in life. I’ve been thinking about it more in the past few weeks as I’ve been analyzing my relationships. I always thought about, suppose you get married early in life or even later in life, and you decide that this person is no longer your type. I think about this because my type is so different now than when I was in my twenties. My type is 100% different than just a year ago. So, I wonder how I would be able to manage if I were married, and my type changed right in the middle of the union.

Well, that seems to be happening with a lot of women. They are finding themselves “stuck” in their homes with spouses or significant others they no longer connect with due to this quarantine. How does a relationship survive that? Should surviving that even be a goal? I mean, life is so short. Should those that are suffering through hunkering down with their unsatisfactory relationship be striving for that, or should they be using this as a wake-up call? I don’t know. I don’t have the answer to those questions.

All of the conversations that I’ve read about dissatisfaction by these women, with their lives, make me grateful that I never got in a permanent union when I wasn’t 100% sure about the other person. Sometimes the universe has a way of showing you that you’ve been on the right path. Reading those conversations validated that I shouldn’t second guess my choices.

Life is way too short to be connected to someone that makes you unhappy.

I would love to know your thoughts about this topic. Reach out, let’s chat on FB, IG, and Twitter. Until then, Be Happy!

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