Everything is not supposed to last forever, and that is perfectly fine. I firmly believe everyone you meet enters for a reason. Sometimes that does not include being in your life for an extended period. That is perfectly ok. People are sometimes supposed to be in your life to teach you something, or you in their lives for them to learn from you.
I am very self-reflective and analytic but more so when a relationship ends. I think stepping back and looking at what happened is a healthy way to move on to the next phase of your life. Analyzing what you could do better, what they could have done better, and what you shouldn’t accept can help to build a healthier relationship when you venture into one.
Although I RAN FROM, I mean left, my last relationship, I think it was a learning experience. I learned so much about myself even though the person I was with was toxic and narcissistic. I discovered
- I have to raise my standards and expect more
- We must be on the same page on foundational issues.
- We must both have a driving love to make money.
- Boundaries are so important and should be respected.
- People that have low self-esteem have no place in my life.
- Trust your instincts, and listen to your gut, no matter what.
- Demand from others what you expect from yourself
I’d like to think the person learned a lot of lessons as well, and we met for a reason. I’m not sure they gained any knowledge from our time together, but that doesn’t really matter. I had some great takeaways that I will use to build healthier relationships in the future. The lessons I learned can apply to romantic and platonic relationships, and I will apply them to both.
People can be in each other’s lives for a long time or just a short period. They can essentially be for just a season or a lifelong journey, but you should enjoy the time you spend with that person. I chose to view all relationships and experiences as valuable. So I will always gain knowledge from them whether we are in it for a season or the long haul.
I would love to know your thoughts on short seasonal relationships or those that have longevity. Let’s chat about it on my socials’.
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