Therapy Return Session 2: The Duality of Life
3 min readI wrapped up my ongoing therapy sessions quite a while ago. My therapy ended after fifteen months of tackling everything plaguing me throughout my life. Those months involved a lot of unraveling, considering how much time I’ve spent on this earth as a GenXer. The time I spent in therapy was life-altering and changed how I walked through life. Recently, a Black therapist got fired for recording a TikTok video with the recommendation that men go to counseling. I can’t imagine going through life without having a therapist to call for an impromptu session. I will never understand how someone could object to a therapist giving out sound advice to those obviously in need of help. That sounds like a hit dogs holler kind of thing. ANY.WHO.
The last session I went to was in March, and I was at a fork in the road on my path in life. I saw my therapist the morning after I had a dream that specifically told me to LEAVE the relationship I was in at the time. The funny thing is, I didn’t know I would have that dream that night, but I had arranged to have a session a week or so before. That was the same as the scheduling of this appointment as well. I planned it over a week ago, and it hit right on time. If I hadn’t had a therapist, I would have been struggling back in March, AND I would still be experiencing challenges. So, having a therapist will forever be crucial to my well-being.
So much has happened since my last session. Life truly comes at you fast. During thIS session, we covered so much. Honestly, it’s been one of the best sessions I’ve ever had. I thought about how far I’d come in my healing journey and how therapy gave me the tools for that progress. She gave me more tools today that I will utilize between sessions since I no longer need to go regularly. She gave me the resources below:
- The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest
- Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown
- Bittersweet by Susan Cain
Today’s hour was about “The Duality of Life.” That is essentially how my life is unfolding now. There are amazing things that are taking place at the same time as some challenging events are happening. The good things are so amazing. They are monumental and life-altering because a dream planned thirteen years ago is becoming a reality. The challenging part involves people and the complex nature of humans. Also, death and grieving are a part of those struggles.
In addition to this, she validated a few things for me. They were things I’d been thinking about but needed a professional opinion on, and those things were:
- I do have dismissive-avoidant tendencies
- My ex does have a LOT of toxic traits
- I did the right thing by walking away from my ex
- Everyone should NOT be a part of my journey
- I am doing well with having firm boundaries in place
I was struggling yesterday because of the death aspect of the duality of my life right now. I was also simultaneously pleased with so many other aspects of my life. That was causing a lot of internal turmoil for me before my session. Within an hour, I gained a lot of clarity. I came away feeling much better about where I am now and my path toward my future. I also realized I have some great tools to figure things out. One of those things is recognizing the importance of having a therapist and being comfortable with seeking help when I need a professional perspective.
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